Pinky Promise Review

Considering the next Pinky Promise? Vibe, crowd, music, safety, and everything else you need to know. From our members to you.

Pinky Promise Review

WTF is Pinky Promise?

Pinky Promise dubs itself an online community to explore, heal, and express your sexuality. They offer a variety of workshops and classes around the topics of kink, relationships, sensuality, and movement as well as host events through which they hope to create spaces that promote free and authentic self-expression. This review will be limited to discussing the in-person events rather than their online platform. 

How did Pinky Promise start?

Pinky Promise held its launch party on the 29th of February, 2020–almost exactly 2 years ago. That first event was successfully sold out but as the pandemic hit, they had to pivot online–as LVRSNFRNDS also had to do once the world closed up. They held other events up until July of 2020 before coming to a complete halt after their November 2020 event “The Castle in the Clouds” got cancelled.

Is Pinky Promise members only? 

You don't need to be a member of Pinky promise to attend their in-person events. However, they do offer a membership (for £15/month), which grants discounts on all their events.

What is the dress code at Pinky Promise? 

Before their comeback event (Jan 29, 2022), Pinky Promise shared a Pinterest board aligning with their theme to inspire people. In the same post announcing the board, they state that “our costume policy is simply dress to express! We do state that no effort means no entry. No casual streetwear will be permitted in our party.”

This statement evokes an earlier discourse on dress codes and their potentially problematic nature discussed under a certain party organizer’s IG post *cough* Crossbreed *cough*, and we ask you: how do you feel about dress codes? We would love to hear from you!

You can also find a collection of images from their previous events on the gallery, which can give you a general idea of what is expected of an attendee. 


Okay, now, onto what we’re here for. After a 1+ year halt, Pinky Promise came back on January 19, 2022, and our member buddied up to go there! Below you can find their unfiltered, unedited, and honest reviews of the event. 


Our Take

It seems like this was a strong comeback for Pïnky Promise as this recent event has also been sold out so we can definitely expect more from them in the months to come. For the most part, the hype is not for nothing as our members have given it the thumbs up (apart from issues at the door that have since been addressed by the organizers and questionable music picks that are a complete matter of taste). If you've seen some of our other reviews, you'll know that this is quite the big thing!

Hannah

February 25, 2022
Gender
Woman
Age range
41-45
Other ID traits
Monogamish

Rocky start and end

I liked it, nice people getting dressed up was super fun and everyone made an effort. Issues at the door meant that some people didn’t get in which was 100% shit (photo id that was out of date) but they accepted my bank card as a form of id so go figure. If you’re expecting play this is not the party for that, but what I would say if you were keen to meet people who you would potentially like to fuck then this was a good party to lay that foundation. I met some really awesome people, potential friends and potential lovers. The music was good and also a bit shite. Not a massive fan of weird disco mashup things but the other dance floor had some good stuff. It did shut at 4 am which is a difficult time for people to get home.

Paul

February 25, 2022
Gender
Man
Age range
31-35
Other ID traits
White

Exciting extravaganza

Big, colourful costumes, lots of lovely, diverse people, and a good, fun atmosphere. Agree that it's not for any full-on play, but there were definitely things going on around the edges that the organisers seemed aware of and fine with, so not sure what the limits would be. I enjoyed the workshop activity parts, as I always find it an easier way of getting to talk to people or just have a good laugh, and they seemed more thought out than other nights I've been to, which can tend to end up just someone jumping into a paddling pool or shit like that. I can see how the whole thing may have worked better at The Vaults, as that venue has more separated rooms, so you could probably make each space feel a bit more unique. Maybe I've just been to events at Electrowerkz too much! I quite enjoyed the music; was a bit more fun and light-hearted. My partner really enjoyed the whole night and says she'd definitely go back again, which is a ringing endorsement from her. There are others like Imaginarium or TG that she's not fussed about going back to. She described it as a mini-mini Shambala festival. Only bad thing was that a costume malfunction on the way there meant she had to go back and change, so we didn't get there till after midnight and couldn't meet you lovely lot (LVRSNFRNDS members) beforehand. I wore my pink rose, but I can't imagine it stood out in all that colourful madness!

Laura

February 25, 2022
Gender
Woman
Age range
41-45
Other ID traits
Gender nonconforming

Worth another try!

Pretty much what Hannah said! I was a bit hesitant about going bc it seemed like it was going to be very girly and that’s not my thing, but it wasn’t like I expected. I didn’t go to any of the workshops tho, I stuck to the dancefloors and as a result I didn’t talk to many people. If I went again (which I probably would) I’d make an effort to talk to more people, but I’m still not fussed about the workshops as again they don’t seem to be my jam (I’m not into sensuality etc 😅) The music was a bit of a mishmash, some of it was great and some was a disjointed mess.

Sam

February 25, 2022
Gender
Woman
Age range
31-35
Other ID traits

A well-balanced atmosphere

I went solo, but only because I had the LVRSNFRNDS pre-drinks to ease me in! After a fairly irritating entry (very thorough ID checking that resulted in some of our party not getting in because their passport was expired). The party itself was wonderful, they had transformed Electrowerkz into a decedent space, one of the first things I noticed was how they made the entrance hall smell so lovely, the burning incense instantly calmed me. We walked a few laps to get a feel for the different rooms and dance floors then settled on a workshop on worship run by a Tantric Dominatrix, I really enjoyed this and the body love sketch-club life drawing class. I think the balance of workshops and DJ sets / Cabaret performances was great, you could just flow with what felt right for you. The majority of people there had respected the dress code, which was “Dress to express” which I think really makes a difference—seeing all the effort that people had made in their outfits was all part of the outrageously creative atmosphere and experience. I’m really looking forward to whatever they do next

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